I got a comment?!?! Someone actually took the time to read my blog! (Someone other than bizkit. I haven't actually told anyone about this yet. This deserves a change from what I had prepared to put up today.) Hey, its someone that doesn't totally agree with me, but that's ok. After all, she (I'm assuming she, going by the name.) didn't rant, or try to be insulting, or anything like that. Criticism like that, I can take. What I can't stand is when someone gets pissed off, and then immediately starts hammering away at the keyboard. People, if you want someone to take you seriously, or even listen to you, calm down and think about what you want to say. It makes things so much easier.
But, before I go any further in this, I have a question (or more) for Sarah. How did you find out about my blog? How do you know bizkit and his ex? (Obviously by your comments, you do.) And, (last one, I promise) what prompted you to reply to what I wrote? I'm very curious to find out this info, so, if you would be so kind as to let me know.
Ok, now on to respond to what you said, Sarah. (I'll do it here, because, to me, it doesn't seem right to use the comments section. That's for my guests. Now, that I know I have at least one.) First, about bizkit and his ex's situation. The first thing I said was that everything I know about it is from one side. And I only used it as an example because it was at the top of my mind. (What little space there is, means the top is a very small place.) Its as simple as that. You did point out a few things that I didn't know about, and that I had only heard from his side. But what you told me is still second hand. If you would relay a message to her, please tell her that she is welcome to come here and clear up anything that I have wrong. But, only if she thinks about what she is going to say first.
And I agree with you that we need to listen to whoever we are dating a little more closely sometimes. But, you can't constantly look for a hidden meaning behind what she says. Doing that is what gets us into trouble. If I want something, I'll tell you straight out. No beating around the bush, or hints. Men aren't wired that way. Women, on the other hand, usually hint at what they really mean. (There are exceptions, there always are.) All I want is for the woman to tell me what she means straight out. Is that too much to ask for? I don't think so.
Thanks for the tips. (If you don't know what I mean, check out Sarah's comments to my Women post.) But being friends after a relationship is, in my experience, almost never possible. Even if you were just friends before. (I only have two women that are friends after we were involved with each other. One, is someone I consider family. The other, we've only recently become friends again. Mostly because of our son, and because we've had years to get over the wrongs that we each think the other one caused us.) You're right about the attraction thing, but that is also what will cause the problems with being just friends afterward. I don't like to get involved with someone that I consider a good friend, because, unless she's an extremely good friend, you can't just go back to the way it was before. It gets too awkward. And the jealousy thing sometimes comes into play, especially if you think you're better than the new person. (And you will always think that, unless you have a low self-esteem.)
That's all I have for now. And again, Sarah, thank you for at least reading and leaving a comment that made me think. See ya'll next time.
1 comment:
I've known her since she was 15 and we hung out in high school. Our children are just about the same age and we did everything together up intil she started dating bizkit and then that is all she wanted and the only person she spent her time with. I found out about your blog from Bizkits. I found Bizkits from Lil Froggy. She was upset and hurt that he had pictures of him with other girl and called me up and told me to look at it. I agree with what you wrote in a lot of ways. It took a MAN to sit down and write thoughts without ranting and raving about how women are the devil. I also have known how much Lil Froggy has been hurting since he left and you only know one side of the story and she tells me everything and bizkit is making her out to be this horrible monster which she can be a bitch at times but she isn't horrible. She would give you the shirt off her back if she got the chance to. However, I'm not going to go into details about their relationship. I will tell her about your blog but I don't konw if she will write. She is tired of writing personal things where all can see. She tried talking to bizkit almost everyday about things but is giving up. And one final thing: I did read most of her comments on his blogs and I laugh at the fact he has deleted one since he didn't want a lot of people to know the truth. She does go off rant and rave but I would have to if someone who hasn't spent more then a week with his son in a long time is going to comment about parenting skills.
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