Well, I’m finally back. (Actually, I got back on Friday, but played lazy as far as the blog is concerned.) I had a great time while I was home on vacation. I got to spend time with my kids and see some of my family and friends. Christmas was a blast. Getting to see my kids opening up their presents was fun. The only down side is that I think that this is the last year for Santa. My youngest has figured the whole thing out. Oh well. But that does make it easier on me; I no longer have to wait till they go to sleep to put stuff out. (And we all know how long it takes for that to happen.)
And then New Year’s Eve came around, and you know what, I was still too jet lagged to really care. I ended up falling asleep around 11. The worse part was that my kids outlasted me. I guess I’ll live, and, I’ll get them next year. (I won’t have to fight jet lag.)
I kept up on all of the blogs that I normally read while I was there. (Bizkit, Miss Izzy, and Biz's cousin's site) And I was surprised to see that Biz was throwing in the towel for now. And why, because a woman (Lil Froggy) thinks that she should run his life. Well to be fair, that’s not quite true. It’s just the way it seems to me. (This all happened while I was gone, and me and Biz had a talk after I got back.) From the way it looks to me, (note I said me, no one else) her and Biz started to smooth out the potholes in their relationship. Which is all for the good. (After all, he really is in love with the woman. God help him.) Everything was starting to get back on track. He made a few promises to her. But apparently there was a misunderstanding somewhere (of course, I’m going to side with Biz on this one), and it looks like it was on her side. Biz is like me with giving his word. Once given, that’s it, it won’t be broken. Well, anyway, as we all know (all 3 of my readers) Biz puts his life in the blog. Well, of course she reads it (big surprise there) and thinks that he broke one of his promises. And then gets angry at him. (I know what the promise was, but it’s up to him to elaborate, if he wants to. So I’m being a little vague here.) WHAT! First of all, I think that she twisted his original promise to suit her own little vision of the world. That way if she wanted, she would have an “out” because; I am starting to think that she really doesn’t want a real relationship. (If she did, why would she keep sabotaging it?) She just likes the idea of one right now.
Next, she enjoys having that kind of control over him. She is using how he feels about her to control him. Simple as that. I’m sorry, but relationships are not dictatorships. They are compromises. When you start telling the other person what they will do, you don’t need to be together anymore. And if you let the other person run your life, you need to stop being an idiot and stand up. Nobody has the right to try and run someone else’s life, tell you who you can and can not have as friends or even what you can wear. It’s just not right.
And last, long distance relationships should be against the law. Relationships are hard enough without adding in not being able to see one another. Think about it for a second. It becomes much easier for you to misunderstand each other. Your mind starts to wonder what the other person is doing (or who, possibly). You start to see the people that they hang out with as threats. Just really stupid stuff. If you’re that insecure, get a f#%$&ng hobby, because you certainly can’t handle it.
And, when I came up with today’s entry, Biz had decided to stop writing his blog. However, it appears that he decided to start it up again. I haven’t read it, yet, and I don’t know if it’s because of our talk. But I’m glad he has returned to doing something that he enjoys.
I’ll see ya’ll later.
1 comment:
I'll enlighten you on the promise. He promised me that he wouldn't be one on one with any females in his apt to where things could be taken out of context. I asked that because I personally didn't feel comfy with him having girls in the apt. If it was a group setting I said that was cool I just asked not one on one. I will be the first to admit yes I am insecure. He knew I was about him going over there because of family reasons. If someone had 22 years together and that didn't stop them how can I trust at that time our 3 months? I was having a very hard time trusting him. I'm not a very trusting person. At least I can admit when I'm wrong. I was wrong about a few things I said to him the other night but I did it in the heat of the moment because he hit a nerve. I hope he has a good life. He deserves it. I have a lot to learn in the way of life and I know I will be doing it on my own the way I wanted to at the starting point. I can't continue to drag someone through my uncertainties. I just want you to know I didn't use the promise as an out. We just had a misunderstanding. You were right I never should of tried things a second time because if few years down the line I get my shit straight and I see him on the street single he won't even look my way. But this is a learning point in my life. I have learned many things from him and I will always say he was a good teacher.
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